Right now I need privacy. This is a dramatic shift from decades of having an open drive and people coming at all hours to buy pottery and produce. Examples include people choosing a wedding gift by car headlights for the next day, people arriving at 7 a.m. for pottery shopping because it is the last hour of their vacation and they need to drive several hours to get home, a man coming at 7 p.m. for a bunch of chard as I rounded the house from the outdoor bath in my bathrobe, being interrupted from a nap, or a meal or cooking a meal.
I have treated each customer as special. I worked hard to get each what was wanted. I did this with very little thought to my needs for nearly three decades. Customers were not only right, they came first here. I shared our lives, philosophy, the stories behind pot or food, garden tips, cooking tips. Willingly I did this. I appreciated each and every one who supported us for all those years.
The situation has changed; after decades I need to put myself first. My husband has died. My partner in life, business, dance, and more is gone. I am left alone to decide what I can and want to do. I am left to figure out how to get done what Ken did – from plowing snow to mowing to felling trees.
I have been under unrelenting stress watching him weaken and die and entering widowhood for over a year. I am exhausted. I need quiet time to heal and build my single life.
Many of you feel you know me and believe we are friends. Have we done anything you do with other friends? Eat a meal together? Gone to a concert or play? Have you invited me to your house? I am open to starting new relationships – from salesperson to friend. Treat me as you would a friend and we can see how it goes.
I am not selling pots, produce, or equipment. When I put up a closed sign and gate people came in anyway.
Please respect my privacy.
I just wanted to say that I am so, so sorry for your loss. I’ve only met you both a couple times. Ken was my most favorite potter. His work lives on in our home everyday through his pottery. I am disheartened to learn of those who have not respected your attempts at privacy. Sending you strength, peace, and light during this most difficult transition of learning a new way, a new self- and through all the waves of emotion. You are amazing.
Perfectly understandable! You need to put yourself first now. Take care!